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Part-II: Why Society Forces Us to Be Somebody
August 23, 2025 · 12 min read
In Part 1 of our investigation, we looked inward. We discovered the ghost in our own machine: a restless, story-telling self that is terrified of its own silence. We saw that our fear of being a 'nobody' is an internal mechanism, a conditioned reflex of the mind. But this raises a crucial question: is this internal fear just our own creation, or is it being constantly and powerfully reinforced by the world around us?
The truth is, the world doesn't just reinforce our fear; it has built a vast, powerful system that depends on it. Society, in its deep-seated need for order, sells us a pre-packaged identity—a blueprint for being a 'somebody'—to keep us on a safe, predictable, and productive path. Let's examine the architecture of this external prison.
Chapter 1: The Deep Thirst for Order
To understand how society conditions us, we must first understand its most fundamental drive. At its core, the human mind is terrified of chaos, of the vast, unpredictable uncertainty of life. To escape this deep existential fear, we create systems of order. But as the philosopher J. Krishnamurti pointed out, not all order is the same.
Intelligent Order: This is the natural, flexible harmony that comes from deep understanding. It's the order of a wild, thriving forest ecosystem, where every part is interconnected and adaptable. It is alive and intelligent.
Mechanical Order: This is a rigid, imposed order that comes from fear and the need for control. It is the order of a perfectly manicured, lifeless garden, where everything is in its designated place. It is a pattern enforced from the outside.
Our society, for the most part, is built on mechanical order. It creates predictable structures—rules, traditions, career paths—to make us feel safe from the wildness of existence. And to power this system, it elevates and romanticizes a single, powerful ideal: ambition.

Chapter 2: Ambition as the Engine of Order
Society needs a fuel to power its engine of mechanical order, and that fuel is the promise that you can 'become the greatest.' This creates a powerful drive, but we must distinguish between the two fires that can fuel human creation:
Egoic Ambition (The Loud Fire) 🔥: This is the desire to 'become somebody'—the best, the richest, the most successful. It is a fire fueled by comparison, competition, and a sense of inner lack. It is the need to secure a high 'internal rank' to feel worthy. This fire is highly valued by society because it is predictable and serves the system's goals of growth and productivity. The student studying obsessively for a rank, not for the love of the subject, is burning this fuel.
Intrinsic Drive (The Quiet Fire) ✨: This is the natural, joyful impulse to explore, create, and understand. It's the curiosity of the scientist, the passion of the artist who paints for no one but themselves. The action is its own reward. This fire is not about *becoming* someone, but about the profound joy found in the *process* of creation itself. Society often dismisses this quiet fire as a 'hobby' because it is unpredictable and cannot be easily measured or controlled.
The system we live in is designed to cultivate the loud, frantic fire of ambition, while the quiet, steady fire of our own authentic curiosity is often left to starve.
Chapter 3: The Philosopher's Toolkit - East vs. West
This preference for 'becoming' has deep roots in the history of thought. Different philosophical traditions offered different paths to realizing human potential, often because they were asking fundamentally different questions.
The Western Focus (The External World) 🏛️: Early Western philosophy, from Plato's 'Republic' to Aristotle's ethics, often began with the question, 'How do we build a just and orderly society?' The primary tool was rational thought, and the goal was to understand and structure the external world. This naturally led to the creation of ideals—the 'ideal citizen,' the 'greatest' leader. The path to your potential was a process of becoming this rational ideal, of molding yourself to fit a perfect blueprint.
The Eastern Focus (The Internal World) 🧘: Eastern traditions, like those of the Upanishads or the Buddha, often started with a different question: 'What is the nature of suffering, and how can a human being be liberated from it?' The primary tool was introspection and meditation. The goal was not to perfect the self, but to see through its illusions. The path was one of un-becoming—dissolving the ego to find the peace that already exists. Full potential meant liberation from the self, not the perfection of it.
Our modern world, with its globalized culture, is heavily influenced by the Western toolkit of ambition and 'becoming.' We try to apply this blueprint-based approach to all areas of life, including our inner well-being, where it often creates the very conflict and suffering we are trying to escape.
Conclusion to Part 2
We have now seen the blueprint. Our personal fear of being 'nobody' is amplified and exploited by a societal system that needs us to chase the ideal of being 'somebody.' It provides us with a fixed map—good grades, a secure job, a successful career—and convinces us that this is the only territory worth exploring, because it keeps us in a state of predictable, mechanical order.
This leaves us with the final, most important question: If our inner self is a story and the outer world is a system designed to trap us in that story, is there a path to authentic living? Can we find freedom?
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